Fall 2000- “Boy Meets Girl”
My mom introduced us when we were 15. We went to the same small private school, car-pooled at times together and almost never spoke. Allan was the “shy guy” (he’ll deny this emphatically!). All that was on his mind in high school was wrestling and running. My mind, on the other hand, was consumed by cheerleading, soccer, and boys! After graduating high school, we both returned to our Alma Mater to coach; I coached cheerleading and Allan coached wrestling. My coaching staff would get into it with his coaching staff – fighting about whose mats were supposed to be out on which day. Still- nothing more than a “Hey” from Allan. Fast forward to a few years later (February 2006) I was a Junior in college having just ended a two-year serious relationship and Allan was in Basic Training for the Marine Corps. We had mutual friends on MySpace and we ended up “friend-ing” one another. I received a message from Allan asking if we could get together when he returned home from basic training. I was a bit taken back: I mean this guy never talked to me in high school – now he wants to hang out?! Well what did I have to lose – I knew I wouldn’t be interested since I was swearing off boys for a while anyway.
February 2006- “The Bait and Hook”
Sure enough, when Allan completed Basic Training he contacted me and asked me to get together at the university I was attending. So we met up for lunch – which turned into a four-hour-long discussion. I left that conversation wanting more- more time, more conversation, more him. He left that conversation and called his cousin and told him that I was the kind of girl you marry! The next sixth months were a whirlwind romance- we knew his platoon would be deploying to Iraq at any moment and I was leaving to spend a semester in Minnesota so we spent every waking and un-waking second together. Before we knew it, we were talking of the future and looking at engagement rings together. But then in August 2006 reality struck – he left on his deployment for 10 months and I journeyed to Minneapolis, Minnesota. The next ten months were some of the most difficult months of my life. I had two cell phones that never left my side (That was back when minutes weren’t unlimited so I had his phone so we wouldn’t rack up my parents’ cell phone bill- but I’m sure I looked pretty shady to onlookers!). Allan would walk a mile to the call center in Camp Fallujah, Iraq every single day after his missions to call me. We would mail letters and care packages to one another (there was very little internet access if any). He sent me flowers, pictures, CDs, keepsakes, and letters- he even named a star after me and sent me the certificate. I sent baked brownies, cookies, pictures, music, videos, letters, cards, supplies, blankets, and gifts for his platoon. No matter the distance, we did everything we could to feel close.
April 30, 2007– Allan returned home from Iraq -just in time for my college graduation! And two weeks later on May 15th he proposed- of course I said YES!
May 31, 2008 “The Vows”– We said, “I forever do” at the altar and were pronounced husband and wife! We had our plans laid out and our minds made up… we would wait 3-4 years to have kids which gave me time to finish my master’s degree in counseling psychology and gave us time to travel around the world.
“The never-ending quest for answers”:
March 2011– I was having excruciating pain in my left side- so much that I was double over and it hurt to walk. I had cysts often but this pain was different and worse- much worse! I set up an appointment with my OBGYN and she noticed some fluid in my left fallopian tube. She said I might have hydrosalpinx so she sent me to a specialist.
April 2011– The specialist took a vaginal ultrasound, saw a little fluid, said she saw some endometriosis, and sent me to her staff on my way out to schedule surgery to see about cutting off my fallopian tube. She said this was my only hope at having kids at my young age and time is ticking. I couldn’t believe my ears-I told her I would not be scheduling surgery and that I would give myself time. After talking with Allan, we decided to start trying my next cycle since our clock started “ticking” before we had originally planned.
May 2011– I went back to my OBGYN and insisted that there had to be an alternative to surgery. She agreed and sent me for a hysterosalpingogram – Why this wasn’t recommended first? – I don’t know! Lesson learned: educate yourself and be your own advocate.
June 2011– Hysterosalpingogram showed that tubes were clear and functioning properly.
August 2011– Went to California on what we thought might be our last get away before getting pregnant.
May 2012– Graduated with a Master of Arts degree in Counseling Psychology
June 2012– Went to Thailand thinking this would definitely be our last hoorah before baby makes his or her entrance.
May 2013– Transferred to a new OBGYN since my insurance changed. He was not very personable but he sent me for blood work and Allan for a semen analysis. Everything came back clear.
October 2013– Went to Dubai, London, and Paris surely this would have to be our last chance to get away before morning sickness would peek it’s ugly head.
January 2014– Transferred to another new highly recommended OBGYN. Her professional opinion is that I don’t have endometriosis. She sent me for more blood work, another hysterosalpingogram, and Allan for another semen analysis. Everything came back clear.
May 2014– Went on a mission’s trip to the Philippines with our church- this would no doubt be our last time away. And it was amazing! We completely fell in love and were so blessed to be able to go.
July 2014– My OBGYN highly recommended we go to Dr. Armando Hernandez-Rey a very well known and successful Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility Specialist. Just so happens my friend went to him and got pregnant on her first round of IVF!
September 9, 2014– (Yes, we had to wait 3 months to see him- but he is worth the wait!) Check out our video the day of our first appointment with Dr. Armando Hernandez-Rey!
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